When a narcissist has new supply but won’t leave you alone

• The narcissist may be using the new supply as a way to make you jealous and keep you hooked.

It’s like they’re playing some twisted game of relationship Jenga, trying to see how many blocks they can pull out before everything comes crashing down. But instead of just walking away when things start getting shaky, they decide it’s more fun to dangle their new partner in front of your face like a shiny object. Don’t fall for it! You deserve better than someone who gets off on mind games.

• They might also be trying to maintain control over you by not allowing you to move on.

Ah yes, because nothing says “I’m over you” quite like constantly texting and calling your ex while simultaneously dating someone else. It’s almost impressive how skilled these people are at making themselves look ridiculous without even realizing it. If they really wanted what was best for both parties involved, they’d give you the space and time needed to heal and move forward.

• Narcissists often struggle with feelings of abandonment, which could explain why they won’t leave you alone even though they have someone else.

This is where we bring out our tiny violins and play a sad tune for all those poor little narcissists who can’t handle rejection or being alone. News flash: everyone feels abandoned at some point in their lives – that doesn’t give them an excuse to treat others poorly or refuse to let go of toxic relationships. It’s time for them (and maybe us) to put on our big kid pants and learn how to deal with emotions in healthy ways.

• It’s possible that the new supply isn’t meeting all of their needs or expectations, so they’re still seeking validation from you.

Oh joy, another round of emotional whack-a-mole! Just when we thought we were done dealing with this person’s constant need for attention/validation/adoration/etc., here comes another opportunity for them to poke their head out of the hole and demand more. It’s important to remember that you are not responsible for fulfilling someone else’s needs, especially if they’re already in a new relationship.

• Some narcissists enjoy playing mind games and manipulating people for their own amusement, regardless of whether or not they actually want them back.

It’s like watching a really bad soap opera where the plot makes no sense and all the characters are one-dimensional caricatures of themselves. Except instead of changing the channel, we’re stuck dealing with these people in real life. The best way to win this game is by refusing to play it – don’t engage with their antics or give them any attention unless absolutely necessary.

• If the narcissist is harassing or stalking you, it’s important to take steps to protect yourself and seek help if necessary.

This is where things get serious (cue dramatic music). No one deserves to feel unsafe or threatened because of another person’s actions. If you’re experiencing harassment/stalking from an ex-partner who refuses to leave you alone despite your requests otherwise, please reach out for help! There are resources available such as restraining orders or law enforcement intervention that can provide protection and support during this difficult time.

• Remember that healing from a toxic relationship takes time and patience, but it is possible to move forward and find happiness again.

We’ve made it folks – our final bullet point! While dealing with narcissistic exes may seem daunting at times (or most times), there IS light at the end of tunnel. Healing isn’t always linear or easy, but taking small steps towards self-care every day can make a huge difference in how we feel about ourselves and our future prospects. So go ahead – buy those fancy bath salts, start writing poetry again, join a kickboxing class…whatever helps YOU heal from past traumas so that YOU can live YOUR best life moving forward!

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