• Start by finding a new place to live before confronting the narcissistic roommate.
Don’t wait until you’re about to pull your hair out or jump off a cliff. Look for an alternative living space, whether it’s with friends, family or simply renting another apartment. You don’t want to be stuck in that toxic environment any longer than necessary.
• Document any abusive behavior and keep evidence of it in case legal action is necessary.
We all know how manipulative narcissists can be; they will twist their words so much that even Harry Potter would have trouble untangling them. So, make sure you document everything! Keep screenshots of messages, notes from conversations and anything else that may help prove your point if things get ugly.
• Have a clear plan for moving out, including packing belongings and arranging transportation.
It’s time to put on your superhero cape because this requires some serious planning skills! Make lists of what needs packing first (like precious items) and then move onto bigger stuff like furniture. Arrange transport ahead of time – no one wants to deal with last-minute U-haul truck rentals!
• Avoid engaging in arguments or trying to change the narcissist’s behavior; focus on protecting oneself instead.
Trying to reason with someone who thinks they are always right is like trying to teach calculus to a dog – pointless! Instead of wasting energy arguing over petty issues just focus on getting yourself out safely.
• Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist during the process of leaving.
Friends are great but sometimes we need more professional help…enter stage left: therapists! They’re trained professionals who can give us unbiased advice when we most need it.
• Consider involving law enforcement if there are threats or acts of violence involved.
If at any point you feel unsafe call the cops faster than Usain Bolt runs the hundred meters sprint. Narcissistic roommates often believe rules don’t apply to them, so it’s important to take precautions seriously.
• Keep communication with the narcissistic roommate as minimal as possible while preparing to leave.
Think of your ex-roommate like a piece of broccoli; you don’t want anything to do with it but sometimes you need it for sustenance (or maybe that’s just me). So keep any interactions short and sweet until you’re outta there!
• Be prepared for potential backlash after leaving, such as smear campaigns or attempts at manipulation.
Remember all those screenshots and notes? Well, they’re going to come in handy now! Narcissists will go above and beyond when trying to make themselves look good – even if that means dragging your name through the mud.
• Remember that leaving an unhealthy living situation is not selfish but rather prioritizing one’s own well-being.
In case no one has told you lately: You are worth more than gold! Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Leaving isn’t selfish – taking care of yourself should always be priority number one!
• If possible, try to end the lease or rental agreement early with the landlord’s help.
Talk about getting some extra credit points from life by having a helpful landlord. Ending on good terms can also prevent future headaches down the line.
• Create a budget and financial plan for moving out, including security deposits and first month’s rent at a new place.
Unless money grows on trees in your backyard (in which case please invite us over), creating a budget is imperative before making any moves. Plan ahead financially so things run smoothly during this transition period.
• Pack important documents such as identification cards, bank statements, and insurance policies before leaving.
The last thing we want is losing our ID card right before boarding our flight…been there done that! Make sure all essential documents are packed safely away where they won’t get lost amongst everything else.
• Consider hiring professional movers if needed to ensure safety during the move-out process.
Unless you’re The Hulk, trying to lift a couch on your own is not advisable. Hiring professional help can save time and prevent any injuries that may occur.
• Be prepared for emotional manipulation tactics from the narcissistic roommate when announcing plans to leave.
This is where having those superhero powers come in handy again! Stand firm with your decision and don’t let them try to manipulate or guilt-trip you into staying longer than necessary.
• Do not make promises or give false hope of reconciling in order to avoid further conflict.
It’s tempting sometimes just to keep things amicable but remember why you’re leaving in the first place – there’s no need for false hopes here!
• Seek legal advice if necessary regarding any shared property or belongings that need dividing after leaving.
If it was bought together then divide it together (or at least get some legal guidance). No one wants their ex-roommate showing up uninvited claiming ownership over something they never paid for!
• Make sure all bills are paid up-to-date before vacating the premises entirely.
We know how much fun paying bills isn’t…but imagine getting hit by late fees? Not so fun anymore right?
• Remember that it is okay to prioritize one’s own mental health over pleasing others, even roommates who may have been friends in the past.
Letting go of toxic relationships can be tough; especially when we’ve built bonds with these people. But always remember: taking care of yourself comes first!
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